Jennette McCurdy’s latest article on Seventeen Magazine was published on April 9th, 2014. Inside, she explains briefly about her experience with boys. She wanted to have the perfect relationship at the age of 17. Looking back, she realized she wasn’t ready for a boyfriend until she was 18.
Jennette gives one simple solid advice when it comes to finding love: “don’t rush it”.
When I was 17, I pretended to be all independent and self-satisfied and confident, but the truth of the matter is I wanted a boyfriend… bad. I wanted someone to call me cute names, share fun stories with, make laugh, and—let’s be honest—kiss. I had experienced a few strikingly close encounters, but had yet to be defined by the title of “girlfriend” to some Prince Charming’s “boyfriend.”
Those fantasies are great. And to be honest, relationships are great! There isn’t one I’ve been in that I haven’t learned loads from, and I think each one has made me a better person. (I’m still a pretty terrible person.)
But you know what? In retrospect, if I could wave a magic wand and go back to being 15, 16, or 17, the biggest difference I would make is that I wouldn’t have spent any time on boys at all. I wouldn’t have wondered about them, I wouldn’t have waited for them to sweep me off my feet, and I wouldn’t have gone on pointless dates with guys I had nothing in common with just to feel like I was potentially entering the fairytale I had made up in my mind.
Some people are ready for boyfriends at younger ages—I was not one of those girls. I was still into American Girl dolls at 15, for god’s sake. I still called my mom Mommy. And I still wore clothes from Limited Too.
Granted, I am still a kid at heart. I still carry a teddy bear, and I still cry whenever I watch Toy Story 2 (note: if you don’t cry when you watch Toy Story 2, you probably have serious problems). However, once I got my first boyfriend when I was 18, I was ready. No aspect of it was forced, I felt comfortable, and I was emotionally in a place where I had something to offer and something to sincerely receive.
All that to say, since I can’t go back in time and help myself, I’m hoping I might be able to help you… Don’t rush it! If you’ve never had a boyfriend, don’t worry your little head one more second. Work hard at whatever you enjoy doing, have lots of fun with your friends, and enjoy time with your family (believe it or not, it is possible.) When the time is right, you’ll meet the guy that is right. Until then, spend time thinking about the things that you do have, and not the things that you don’t!